How Does Divorce Law Apply to Same-Sex Marriages in the United States?

For many same-sex couples across the country, the dream of one day wedding their partners was realized when individual states started legalizing gay marriage. Even more couples celebrated when the U.S. Supreme Court overturned the Defense of Marriage Act.

But the honeymoon has to end sometime. And many same-sex couples are starting to consider what approximately half of all married couples eventually face: Breaking up.… [Read more]

We’re Getting There

Last Wednesday morning, instead of watching Disney Jr, I had on the Today Show. The horrible fourth hour with Hoda and Kathie Lee was just starting and my oldest had just been returned to me from gymnastics. I knew the Supreme Court would be ruling on DOMA that morning at 10am, but it hadn’t crossed my mind that it would be on TV at that time.… [Read more]

Ask Mrs. Vera: What will become of America now that the Supreme Court has legalized same sex marriage?

Dear Mrs. Vera,

What will become of America now that the Supreme Court has legalized same sex marriage?

Retrogards, Phyllis McAlpo Stewpot Schlafly

Mrs. Vera Newman,San Francisco, California.Photo: Vinc LeVinc

I apologize for the brevity of this week’s column in advance to all those deluging me with wedding etiquette questions, the answer to every single one of which is, A) congratulations and B) The only thing you need to know is that love is love is love, and the fork is worn to the left.… [Read more]

You’re so GAY!!’ – Schoolyard slander to Supreme Court sanction

In my own early 1970s Ontario Wonder Years, everyday adolescent language was at once piquant, ironic and flexible. ‘Tool’ was common currency for the least accomplished among us, ‘browner’ for the smarties, and ‘occies’ (occupational) as the blunt, dismissive reference to students with learning disabilities. I am not embarrassed by the memories – it was dispassionate chatter, and I am not at one with the sociologists and associated deep thinkers connecting their dots to elevate mere words beyond their station as purported evidence of ingrained hostility or intolerance.… [Read more]

Prop. 8: Same Sex Marriage Legal (again) in California

The federal ban on recognising same-sex marriages is dead.

Earlier today the US Supreme Court declared the Defense of Marriage Act to be unconstitutional. In another critical human and civil rights decision the high court  issued its ruling on Prop 8, California’s voter-approved ban on same-sex marriage. In a vote of 5-4,  the court ruled that same-sex marriage is legal once again in the state of California.… [Read more]

Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) End: Unconstitutional!

The US Supreme Court has voted on a crucial human rights case:  in determining the constitutionality and legality of gay marriage and the federal government’s National Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) the Court decided that DOMA is unconstitutional. The Court struck down in a 5-4 decision the federal provision that denies benefits to legally married gay couples.… [Read more]

Waiting With Bated Breath: The Supreme Court’s Rulings on DOMA and Prop 8

SCOTUS has had the opportunity this session to make a big impact on the face of American politics with three big cases: Fisher v. University of Texas, United States v. Windsor, and Hollingsworth v. Perry. As of this morning, we have one down, two to go, and are being faced with a real disappointment.

In the first case, Fisher v.… [Read more]

Yes, Mr. Broussard, there are Gay Christians

Even the Jesus Fish is getting in on the action!

It seems that the blogosphere has been abuzz all week with the news of gay NBA player Jason Collins’ coming out story in Sport Illustrated this Monday. The news has largely been met with positive statements from public figures, from the NBA Commissioner, fellow NBA players, and even former and current Presidents.… [Read more]

The Right Thing is Marriage For All

Dear Supreme Court Justices of the United States of America,

I consider myself to be a pretty average American mother of a typical American family. My husband and I are married and live in a small town in the Midwest. We have two small boys ages three and one. Both my husband and I have college degrees and we work outside the home.… [Read more]

The Myth of “Traditional” Marriage – Part Two

The proponents of illiberality and oppression often peddle their own warped definitions of equality. For them, segregation was an egalitarian institution – prohibiting women’s voting rights was just an extension of treating the inherently unequal sexes appropriately, according to their own potential abilities.

A woman makes her support of her marriage, and not civil unions, known outside the Mormon temple at New York City’s Lincoln Center.… [Read more]

Fairness and Equality

The other day, I listened to a priest talk about the Parable of the Prodigal Son. As he spoke, I started to think about what it really means to be a Christian and a human being in America today.

By no means am I a religious person, but the philosophy of Jesus of Nazareth has always been one of my guiding lights.… [Read more]

The Myth of “Traditional” Marriage — Part One

Our culture and our time blind us all to some extent—some more than others, yet no one is exempt. Often we assume that the ways things are now and in this particular culture is how humans have always behaved throughout the globe. Many speak as if humans always organized within and understood the concept of centralized nation-states, that capitalism was always the dominant economic societal structure, that marriage was always a romantic relationship between a consenting adult male and a consenting adult woman.… [Read more]

Newt Gingrich Coming Out?

Newt Gingrich recently announced that he has had a change of heart. No, no, not any new extramarital affair that I’m aware of. In an interview with Fox News recently, Gingrich came out with this remarkable statement:

“I think this is a very complicated human problem and Republicans need to take a deep breath and understand we need to deal with the human side of this equation…”

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Greetings From The End Of The World

If what all those unscrupulous “new age” authors and their acid-casualty devotees say is true, we are only a week away from the end of the world as we know it. As much as I want to believe that this nightmare known as civilization is about to get put out if its misery, I can’t quite convince myself of it.… [Read more]

Can the Law Make Us Better People?

It was the day of the election and we were talking about gay marriage.

“I think what really needs to happen is that people need to educate each other on tolerance and acceptance, because even if the federal government passes a law legalizing gay marriage, it won’t change people’s minds,” she said.

Then, after gay marriage won victories in Maine and Maryland, I was talking to another friend about the same thing.… [Read more]

Your Move, America: Vietnam and a Gay Rights Decision to Shake the World

The Vietnamese Justice Department may be sparking a continental revolution. Coming under consideration this month, with a final decision due next May, Vietnam is officially considering the legality of same-sex marriage. If the bill passes, they will be the first in the continent to legally acknowledge such unions, joining eleven other nations worldwide.

While they may not be the first country to come to mind when you think about a champion of gay rights in Asia, they are less hostile to the idea, at least.… [Read more]

Protecting Free Speech or Supporting Bigotry?

On the issues of censorship and free speech, the erudite liberal thinker John Stuart Mill wrote “If all mankind minus one were of one opinion, and only one person were of the contrary opinion, mankind would be no more justified in silencing that one person, than he, if he had the power, would be justified in silencing mankind.” For, he argued in his treatise On Liberty, that “if the opinion is right, they are deprived of the opportunity of exchanging error for truth: if wrong, they lose, what is almost as great a benefit, the clearer perception and livelier impression of truth, produced by its collision with error.”

The liberal thinker John Stuart Mill was a strong proponent of free speech and expression.… [Read more]

Make Mine a Chick-fil-A!

Chick-fil-A, eh?

Detached amusement is a handy emotional default position for us Canadians who enjoy our southerly view of America, the land of perpetual social folly. When Sarah Palin was au current, we had the welcome addition of reality television show hilarity from the northwestern Alaska frontier, but in 2012 the really good stuff is all below the 49th.… [Read more]

Neither Here Nor There

It’s a classic story of boy meets boy.

Boy goes to party he doesn’t want to attend, sees French Boy there. French Boy also doesn’t want to be at party.

Boy…wait.

This is going to be confusing. Let me start again.

Mark and Fred met over 20 years ago at the party of a mutual friend.… [Read more]

Watch Where You Throw Your Money…

We all grew-up tossing coins into the ubiquitous Salvation Army kettles around Christmas time and shoving our old clothes into their boxes. They rang their bells and cheered us with their brass ensembles, but what does The Salvation Army do with the money we give them and the profits they make from their various enterprises, such as their surplus used clothing business?… [Read more]